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Hello,
I have been dating this guy 3 yrs ago for about 2 months, and he got scare with us getting closed too soon. And just recently I run into him,he keeps telling me that he regard what he did, and ask me for another chance... We have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now. He has been showing me that he changed, how do I know if he is serious this time?! (I'm 32yrs, he's a 38yrs old extremely successful businesses man)

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Hello Valen!

What exactly are you looking for? The absolute, sure deal?

Valen, forget it. There's no such thing in relationships. All of them - even "secure" ones involve risk. You can't be absolutely sure.

However, you can be "pretty damn sure". It appears he's trying to show you how he feels. That's a lot of work on his part and he wouldn't be doing it if it didn't mean something. I suggest you move forward with some caution, but not so much that you expect him to continue this in every way.

As I said, all relationships involve risk and if you take too far, you'll simply ruin the good things that you have.

Best regards...

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