Expert: Azure - 6/13/2004

Question
Hi, Please help me,

I'm separated. I met a new man. I knew this 25 yrs young man for two years now. He has a long term relationship.
He use internet to have sex with me, and he shows me his naked body, it's fatanstic! I am dreaming of meeting him for real, but he never shows up and he never calls me; we are not strangers, before we have cybersex, we knew each other--we are in the same class and in a team for a project.

But now he seems like we are strangers, but the cyber sex is very intimacy--makes me believe if he didn't love me for real, he will not do or say those things to me. He is so true in the Internet.

But he never shows up for me, even if I invite him. So I have to make myself believe he is only play with me; He mentioned he want to have real sex with me, but he still never do it. On the other hand, I can't get him out of my mind at all, what should I do?

I am 10 yrs old than him, but I didn't feel that much difference, I still don't want to forget about him, and I think about him every day, just wish he could show up and say he loves me too,

How can I make him love me for real?

Do I just daydream?

Thank you.

Answer
you've beome addicted to his attention; it's eating away at your emotions and distracting you from real life; this guy is involved with someone else, and just using you, at his convenience, for sexual pleasure..he has no real interest in you or in a real world relationship; wake up, stop communicating with him, and use your time and energy to meet available men that you can see, observe, touch, do things with..life is too short to settle for illusion and fantasy...