Question I like this guy that i use to go out with about 4 years ago and we have now started talking again but he is "with" someone else meaning the relationship isn't doing so good. i also like this other guy that i just met he is different and is 7 years older than me (dont worry i am of age) he is cool and i have a good time with him. now the real question is am i all screwed up the fact that i like two guys one with a girlfriend and one without? i know not to do aything with realtionship guy but it is soooo hard it just feels right should i just be patient and wait for him to come to me or should i act on my feelings? Also is it worth seeing the other guy in the mean time just in case if it dont pan out with the other or is that just mean?
Answer i see no point in limiting yourself; date who you choose non-exclusively until your PREFERENCE is to just be with one; as to the relationship guy, i wouldn't settle for being his convenient side girl; tell him to call you when he's done with her, and if he's lucky, you might be still available..
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