Expert: Azure - 9/24/2005

Question
HI, thanks for taking my question :)
I was in an abusive relationship for 2years and after all was said and done i met the person of which i have been infatuated with ever since. since i was in the healing process i would not let anything go past being more than just friends without explaining myself or my feelings to him (not a big deal). well time went on and we have had feelings for eachother for 2 years now. last semester he went out of the country on a backpacking venture. i heard from him once. mind you the night before he left was the first time i had ever told him i liked him even though it was obvious. i had stayed the night at his place multiple times, but had only kissed him once and had never done anything intimate with him (eventually he quit trying). when he returned to school he made calls to make sure i was back into town and so forth because it was his senior year yada yada. i ended up drunk dialing him over the next couple weekends giving myself courage to call/ seeing him on campus ( he took me into his place showed me around, said hi, ran to see me everytime he saw me). one drunken night (ps i turned 21 while he was gone so he had never seen me drunk before-he always goes to the bars) we ended up at his place hooked up and he never called. he knows he is the second person i have ever been with and that was a big thing ESPECIALLY after all we have been through. 3days later he answers a phone of a mutual friend when i call and pretends to be the friend-then says he will call, never does.
do i give up? or give in and talk to him...this nonsense needs to cease!
thanks so much

Answer
depends on how much you want to hear his lame excuses; in either case, the bottom line is it's obvious that he's not into it; i'd learn from it, consider it HIS loss, and move on; if he has something honest and meaningful to say, he knows where to find you, but even then, considering his total insensitivity and inconsideration, why would you even want him??