Expert: Rhapsody Love - 4/26/2006

Question
Hello-
I work at large company and I have been making eye contact with this really handsome guy that works on the 1st floor- the only problem is that I work on the 4th floor.  Sometimes I walk through just so I can catch a glimpse but thats it.  I have no connection with him - although we work for the same company - I wont ever have a reason to call him ..even for business.

I havent had a crush in a while - and usually am very picky. This is just eating away at me.  I dont want to ask around about him cause it will get back to him and I dont want to be embarssed every time I see him.  

thanks a lot! - I am out of ideas..  

Answer
Hi Nena,

You need to either ask around to find out about him or find out about him on your own. You need to know where he eats lunch and when and try to "bump into him" during lunch or morning coffee or something. Some offices have evening clubs they go out to also. Not knowing your situation and since there are so many possibilities, I don't know how to tell you to procede.

Another possibility is to pass by and put your business card on his desk either with a note written on it or say "call me sometime". You could do it discretely by being quick & quiet, but make sure to make quick eye contact, if possible, and smile at him (a small sweet and/or flirting smile - not one that can be interpretted as laughter or sarcasm).

Good luck!

- Joyce