Expert: Tracey Steinberg - 10/7/2007

Question
Hello,

I met a very nice gentleman I was interested in and he asked for my number and gave me his. He was very educated and very intellectual, exceedingly polite and dressed very classy. Both of us have doctoral degrees.

He texted me at 11:30 pm on Thursday night asking me out for the weekend but I was already asleep. The next day (Friday) we talked on the phone but we couldn't really talk since we were both at work. He texted me numerous times during the day and asked me if we wanted a date for Saturday. He called my phone but it was off, so he left a voicemail saying that he was free tomorrow (Saturday) and to let him know if I wanted to get together. I didn't get off work until 10 pm...so I called him back then and got his voicemail, left a message.

Saturday came, he didn't call me, so I texted him, no response, then I called him (but didn't leave a message) no response. I guess it's kinda like he stood me up, not sure.

From your experience in life, what do you think happened.

He's not interested? Or was he just keeping his options open for Saturday, that's why he contacted me late Saturday night, but he found some other girl already to spend his saturday with, so he blew me off?

I'm surprised a mature older man with advanceed degrees would just blow a girl off.

All he had to do was just text me and say he couldn't make it. Would've taken 5 seconds.

let me know what you think - thanks -

Answer
Elaina,

I can read your frustration and I cant possibly know why he didn't take the 5 seconds to text you back.  It could be anything from the fact that he needs to improve his social skills to the fact that he is the biggest player in the world.  

But, I do know that he met a man who interested you and he didn't treat you the way you like to be treated.  That is understandable and I agree with you that you deserve better.  For now, you may want to choose to spend your precious time and energy elsewhere.  

If he contacts you again, you can decide then if you want to give him a chance to explain himself.  Sometimes men think differently then we do.  If he is a good quy he will quickly learn that his actions upset you and he will never do it again. After speaking to him you can decide  if you want to give him the privilege of seeing you once again.

Regardless of what happens with him, you sound like a very intelligent and caring woman.  if he doesn't do right by you, i am confident that another man will.

good luck! Life Coach Tracey