Expert: Azure - 7/30/2005

Question
I met this man through a mutual friend. At one time he was even considered my landlord but not really because I was sub-leasing my apartment. That he owns.
Just like tonight, I had coffee with these mutual friends and when he came into the room I could feel him staring at me. So I held his stare. Our friends are older people, so we kinda cooled it. Well I did, I don't know if he ever had anything to cool. I really want to say something to him but I am so afraid of the answer and I don't know why. I guess I think that  I should leave it up to him to ask me out. He knows where I work, he knows my phone number but he won't call me. Does he feel the same way? Why won't he say something. This is really driving me crazy, I have to know. How do I ask him. I am getting mixed signals.

Answer
in most cases, i wouldn't recommend making the first move, unless you're unconcerned about possible rejection;  plus, if a guy is interested, he'll find a way to ask you out; but, if it's really bugging you, you prefer to ask and be snubbed rather than not ask at all (nothing ventured, nothing gained philosophy), and can live with his "thanks but no thanks" response, ask him if he'd like to catch a movie together (mention 2-3 you'd like to see), and hold your breath..