Expert: Azure - 1/4/2003

Question
i need help on how to win a guy over, well more then win him over, i want him to think about me as much as i think about him. to make a long story short...last year we messed around, end of summer we are together, he says he loves me, i say no you don't, he says not yet but i will when we live togehter,have kids and i am his wife. goes on to ask me to marry him someday....he goes away for 5 mouths and calls me 2 times total. he comes back for thanksgiving and he mad cause i'm seeing someone else and he has only kissed one other girl since he has been gone. I stop seeing other person, now he is back and i don't know what to do to really win him over. See, though he has said all these words to me and acts like he likes me and whatnot, its hard for me to believe him, for he is gods gift to women. let me explain. He is tall dark and handsom. He is buff, but not full of him self. very laied back, doesn't get all dressed up or primp he is just there and perfect. there isn't a girl i know that when you mention his name doesn't say "the man is fuckin fine, and i would have his baby anyday" haha, well anyways. Just wanted you to get a picture there. So, how do i melt his heart how do i make him weak in the knees? how to i seem so special and unlike any other girl. thanks
mar

Answer
the first problem is your insecurity...otherwise you wouldn't be asking the questions...i don't care how great looking he is, he's still no better than you...you need to make sure he measures up to YOUR standards, not the other way around...he already left once,  gives you alot of verbal b.s., and probably is seeing more women than yo can imagine...if you do anything more than just be yourself, you'll regret it down the road....if that's not good enough for him, than it's HIS loss...best thing you can do is lay down the law about what YOU expect in a relationship from HIM, and don't settle for less...finally, don't get to hung up betting on this guy to be what you need...your risk of getting hurt with this kind of guy is quite high...stand above the crowd, stop chasing, and just be real...az