How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/How to turn tables

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Expert: - 7/31/2003


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I have a boyfirend/ex/boyfriend/ex who likes to break up with me all the time, and then tell me not to go (we live together). He says hes confused, but the only reason he's like that is he knows he can trust me and he's secure in my love. But now I'm not secure with him...how do I make him turn this back around to him chasing me again? The only thing I can think of is to move out...

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he's too sure of you to the point of complacency...i wouldn't call it "trust"; he just figures he can jerk you around because you're allowing him to...just tell him the next time it happens you ARE leaving, and will be seeing other guys... but once you say that, be prepared to go through with it or your word will never mean anything....once he sees you packing, he'll get un-confused real fast...az  

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