Expert: Tracey Steinberg - 12/22/2007

Question
thanks foy advice .about finding guy .but i jave being rejcted so much now .i thnk i should give up looking a boyfreind i have being trying for 10 years all i got was rejcetion and hurt and hertache.men just don,t like me.from irish point on men it different USA from what i see all they want is skinny tall goodlooking age about 18 years to 25 years old.with big breast tight waist and long legs i just i can,t compete with that.

thanks

Answer
Louise Kelly,

I hear the pain in your letter.  My first question to you is, are you open to a different way of thinking? Without knowing much about you, I can tell you that I believe you can find a man who you can love and who will love you back.  BUT, without believing in the possibility, I think your chances may be small.

Assuming you are open to the possibility, I would like you to take some time and figure out what is important to you in a man, regardless of how they feel about you.  I am literally asking you to think about if you want Brad Pitt's looks, Bono's philanthropy, and Will Smith's Charm.  After you spend some time thinking of your ideal, I am going to ask you to prioritize the characteristics in order what is most important to you.

The next step you may want to take is to take a good long look at yourself and see what you are happy with and if there is anything about you that you want to change.  Do you like the way you dress? Do you like your hairstyle? Do you like the way you interact with men? Do you like your attitude towards men? etc...

After you have taken those steps, you can focus your valuable attention only on the men who you are truly interested all the while feeling great about yourself and knowing that you are the woman you are meant to be.

This can be a very exciting and fun process and I hope you will enjoy it :-)

enjoy your adventure, Life Coach Tracey