Expert: Azure - 7/19/2005

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I have known this guy for about 4 years, the first two were great. We fell in love, i knew him but he didnt entirely know me as well as he thought. I had held something from him for some time. I eventually told him and it broke his heart as well as mine from hurting him so badly. Anyway, now 2 years later we casually talk from time to time and I miss the way we were terribly. He swears it will never be the same so at this point we are strictly friends. I wish to change that, he has forgiven me but am i asking too much to go back to romance?

We have never actually met, we met on the internet and have now moved to just talking on the phone. However, in a month he is coming to an airport in my area and wants me to meet him there.
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if you havn't even met, you haven't had anything CLOSE to real romance; these internet things only suck you into emotionally unhealthy places, making you give up "real" for fantasy; meet him if you choose, but if you have ANY expectation that this is going to lead to a "real" relationship, or if you're gonna settle for another round of smooth talk, you're making the same mistakes;   

Dear azure, I am a bit confused about your answer, "settle for another round of smooth talk" what exactly does that mean? I know the internet is not the best way to meet someone but i don't believe it is a mistake.  Thanks

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you say you want to "go back to romance"..guess your definition of romance is different than mine; unless you can see, touch, do things together, all you had was essentially alot of emotionally appealing, addictive TALK, and for 6 years; i said it was okay to meet, but to expect that this will turn into a REAL LIFE interaction would be wishful at best; if you can't translate this into seeing each other REGULARLY very soon, i'd say it's time to move on, already LONG overdue..