Expert: Azure - 3/3/2005

Question
I am a woman. I am curious about some insight into the male mind. There is a man I like (he is one of those gorgeous high-status alpha male type men) that I know is interested in me and lusts for me back... but he doesn't want anyone to know!

Can you please explain to me the reasons why he wouldn't want anyone to know about his feelings for me? Why is he so much in denial?

Is it because he is shy, afraid of rejection, or he just doesn't want to be seen in public with me?

I have seen him jump up in the air startled when he sees me with a 'deer in headlights' type of reaction and also look at me with wild lust in his eyes...however he seems to respond to me with a lot of anger. What is going on here?

Thank you. Debra

Answer
first we need to examine your conclusions of his great interest/lust for you; to me, one needs more than a startled reaction or a "look" before assuming another's degree of interest; that's good "sizzle", but there's no "steak"; if a guy is truly interested, he'll figure out a way to ask you out; until then, all this innuendo is basically meaningless; as to the "whys" of his behavior, only HE can say, but "denial" certainly hasn't been proven; i wouldn't spend alot of time analyzing it, instead suggesting that none of this really matter much to you unless/until he PROVES an interest by doing something about it..