How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/How can I woo him over??

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Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 12/29/2007


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Hi!
I am in highschool and I go to an all-girls private school. I went to elementary school with this guy. I was in his class grade 3-6. I had a huge crush on him in grade 5 and 6, and we always used to flirt, but he never really asked me out or anything (we were kind of young..). Anyways, I still have a thing for him today, because even though I rarely see him or speak to him, when I am just reminded of him or if I begin to think about him, I fall back in love with him. Kind of weird, but he had a huge impact on my love life.

Anyways, I would do anything to get with him, but I don't know where to start or what to do! Should I call him? I guess that's the only alternative to speak to him. He is rarely on the computer, and doesn't answer text messages. So I got that part figured out.

But what should I say??
Should I ask him to come over to my house??
Or on a date??
Or just have a conversation first?
How can I attract him to me??

Help please!
Julia

Answer
It is always better when the guy makes the moves.  You need to find a way to get around him, so he becomes aware of you again.  If computer is out, then run into him somewhere or phone.  Yes, conversation first.  Just a nice friendly - how are you, whatcha been doing- sort of conversation  You could end it with "sure would like to see you sometime."  Then leave it up to him.  See what happens  Let me know.

What you should say?  Normal light conversation stuff like you would with a friend.  Things you have in common -= how was your holidays would be a start right now, or some movie.  

All the best,
Susan
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I can answer any questions regarding attracting the man of your dreams including preparing yourself, letting it happen, The Rules that work and the rules that don't, meeting him, the first date, the dating relationship, recreating a failing relationship, how to tell if he's serious or not, how to get him to marry you not just date you, romance, everything. I coach clients how to do it step-by-step, and walk them through the process. I've talked with thousands of women ... let me help YOU.

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I have had years of experience coaching women on how to meet and marry the man of their dreams. How to catch him and keep him! Also how to get him back when he runs away, or how to get him to marry you when he's committment-shy.

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Founding member of CoachVille and member of original R&D team. Former Board member and former Board chair for numerous local organizations.

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I am widely published on the Internet on subjects related to dating, romance and marriage, as well as other lifeskills topics. (It isn't just about "dating," it's about YOU.) I'm rated A-plus on ideamarketers, and my articles regularly appear on websites around the world.

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MA in Clinical Psychology.

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I have an international coaching and consulting practice, I train and certify other coaches worldwide, and have been a regular presenter for the cruise lines.

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I have helped many, many women find the man of their dreams - and keep him.

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