Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Dr. Dennis W. Neder

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Daniel wrote at 2008-11-02 09:14:14
I just had a great day. she said no to him and I didnt take no for an answer towards me. So you are helpfull in a catch 22 way cause either way it would have gone youre answer would have been right. the first way is you ridicule most guys make them feel like kids doing childish things. and then tell them there chances are slim to non.



Well, the true fact is our chances are as good as we want to make them. and you that were you win. you pretty much dare these guys to be men in the end its there choice. if they decide not to go through then all they are kids in a man's world and the rest of us will just chew em up and spit em out like bodies bussiness. so this is to all you guys. stop slouchikng stop moping and make something of yourself wether if its with a girl or job or anything in life. cause if not the guy that Dr. Neder talk about in all his answer with no one at the end will be you.



By the way thanks, Doc!

Dont know what got into me.

normally I'm strong the whole way through i mean im in Iraq and survived right? Thanks.

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Alex Strandberg wrote at 2008-11-04 20:07:49
Hey Daniel,



I agree with Dennis on not going for the long-distance and her not marrying him. It's nice to see another person out there who advises people NOT to get into long distance relationships.



I do disagree, respectfully of course, with suggesting that you get involved with this girl.



If she is messaging another guy (you) while she is ENGAGED she lacks integrity and honesty. She would probably cheat on the guy with you if she had the chance. I consider flirting with another guy cheating as well because she is leaking sexual energy outside of the relationship.



What would stop her from doing the same with you? All it would take is her feeling pressure and scared from commitment to cheat on you. Relationships started on cheating don't have good lasting powers.



Mistakes happen but she has been talking to you for a while, that is no mistake. I can only guess but chances are that she has cheated on this guy before.



I know you feel like she is unique and special but she's not. With 3 billion women out there odds are really good for you finding another girl that has this girls qualities.

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