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  Hi, Dr. Neder. My problem is that I don't have a good way to open a conversation with girls. Or, if I can, I cannot transition to save my life.  I am a sophomore in high school and many girls find me attractive.  I have a pretty good selection but I don't have any game.  Could you give me any advice, or a kick in the rear, about how to not be a tongue-tied wuss?

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Hello John!

First of all, yes, you need to get some game. The good news is that this isn't tough to do. It takes work like anything worthwhile, but the results far outweigh the investment!

You have two basic problems here: how to approach and how to build rapport and connection.

The first mistake you're making is thinking that you have to deliver THE line that makes your target fall in love with you. This never happens John and you need to stop looking for that. Instead, I teach an approach system built around "context". This is more than I can get into via the messages, but it's basically this: asking yourself, "What do she [your target] and I have in common at this very time, at this very place?" The answer to that simple question is your reason to approach her - your "context".

Building rapport and connection is more complicated. I teach communication systems that you can use to do this very quickly however. Another way to do this is by letting her do all the talking. Women love to talk and you can use that to your advantage. Go to my website (http://beingaman.com) and click on Self Help and finally my FAQ's. Read the articles on communications there and that will get you started.

Finally, once you build enough rapport and connection, the next step is to close for digits. If you don't close, you're only practicing. Remember, it's YOUR job to get what you want.

I hope that helps!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, dating and sex, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers from all over the world. I'm able to answer literally any question regarding dating, finding and approaching women, sex, getting phone numbers, setting dates, what to do on dates, how to set them (and make sure she shows), dealing with dating problems, conversion from dates to relationships, etc. Check my website at: http://beingaman.com for much more. If your question is particularly sensitive you can email me privately and securely at: dwneder@beingaman.com.

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Having helped over 30,000 people with their issues, I'm certainly qualified to help you with yours. I don't take the "feel good" approach at all. I'm direct and that comes from experience and research into what really works.

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