Expert: Dr. Dan - 11/15/2008

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QUESTION: Hi I am in high school and like a girl whom is very pretty, very smart, and class president. You see I really have to get going before she gets to a age in which she will be attractive to older boys, which she will seem to be easily. She really is worth it I'm telling you.
Anyway I will mention a few things, one she brought me cookies on my birthday this year specially for me, maybe she wants attention? Two a classmate tells me last year she told him that she liked me not jokingly.Is he trying to motivate me? Three in gym she and a group of girls instead of playing volleyball came to the weight room with me and my friends to work out, which she is athletic.
Please if help is needed in my situation don't hesitate I need any help I can get. Also, she was overheard saying she thinks I act strange around her and that she likes how I have been dressing nice lately. So I just want some friendly advice on how to attract her even if I have already.
But I do know that women's attraction to men is mostly because of personality and even if I say it myself women seem to like my personality and suave I am, but I am in major competition with other guys one of them named Collin who is probably the best for her, who really losing (I get a ton of nice comments from the girl). So I guess I just want your opinion and advice. Thanks.

ANSWER: Hey The Man! Thanks for taking the time to write in. I agree, she is into you. She is showing all the signals. But just make sure to not try to impress her. To many guys try to do this but they end up just pushing them away. What I mean is to continue to be that suave caring guy you were being that attracted her to you. Don’t try to look too cool especially in front of friends. Remember that you don’t want to date your friends, you want to date her. So don’t show off in front of them. I don’t know all the details but maybe take her out. Don’t call it a date unless she wants to call it that. I would just say to her lets hang out and then take her out to dinner or movie etc. In case she says I don’t like you like that etc. You would reply with I didnt say we were going on a date! Sorry I just said lets hang out. Do this jokingly. I have done this so many times and it went from just friends to dating in less than a week. This is the first step.

After that you will have to work on the attraction part if it doesn’t happen naturally. That’s where you move from friends to more. You can do this many ways. By taking her hand and if she pulls back just saying I just wanted to see if your hands got sweaty when you were around me. That is only if she pulls back. If she holds your hand then you are in. But doing alot of jokingly little hand and arm around her and little light tapping teasing etc. Work too but that is a whole other topic. This is more of an art to learn but just make sure you don’t use it as a weapon. Only to be used with those you are interested in. Make sure to go to my site and download the 3 Free secrets or buy the entire book
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QUESTION: So how should I dress, what cologne should I wear?

ANSWER: Believe or not attitude is the most important thing. That is why the so-called pick up artists will tel these guys to wear outlandish clothing and accessories. because it makes them feel a certain way and gives them an attitude of I am unique im the man! But when I say attitude im not saying being stuck up or im too good for you attitude. I always wear a big smile on my face and talk to everyone. Because of this I always have men and women approaching me or talking to me. When I was at the Playboy mansion last year for a party, I had beautiful women coming up to me to take pictures with me because of my attitude. While every other guy was trying to take pictures of the same women. That is what I call RockStar Lesson a Smile is Real Style! That is in the book too!

Bottom line wear a couple of drops of RockStar Attitude with a splash of Stylish Smile! Also another good idea is to ask her to go cologne shopping with her. I used to take girls with me to do those things and they had fun helping me out as we connected. Women like to be included in things like that.  

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QUESTION: Well I'll tell you the truth I'm in 7th grade and well my parents aren't into the relationship thing so as far as they know a girl likes me in school that's all nothing more and doubtless they like her, they know her but...... were a different religion, she is Catholic and I have nothing against that but they are different and would just rather I set my sights on something else. How do I get around this?

Answer
That changes a few things from my original advice. Being a minor I cant tell you what to do. But I can tell you what I would do. Being from two different religions and faiths makes a relationship really hard. Especially if they have 2 total different sets of beliefs and how they want to raise their children. It’s like wanting to marry someone that is set on moving to India while your job and family is in America. When choosing a mate it is important to understand that you are buying the whole package. It is not a buffet and you can just leave behind what you don’t like or don’t want to deal with. For me I believe everyone should have the right to choose whatever they believe or want in life. If my parents were of a different faith and wanted me to marry the same faith, I would not care what they wanted. That is just their opinion and they don’t have to live or marry my decisions. But that is just me. The good news for those that are still younger is that life is still a practice and you have plenty of time to make mistakes and learn from them. But then again, life is a daily practice and I am still learning every day. Make sure to download the 3 Free Secrets from my site too.

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