Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/3/2008

Question
I am a male teen who's naturally very shy. But today i got a girl's number for the first time. Basically, i was waiting at the bus stop when this girl appeared and we just kept on speaking about all sorts.Later when i had to leave the bus, i asked her for her number & she gave it to me.I felt very alpha male. Now i'm wondering if i should contact her back, since i don't know what to say, or how long should i wait for ? Do girls give thier number to any random guy or do they have to be confortable first .. ?

Answer
Hello Dany!

GREAT FREAKIN' JOB, DANY!! I'm very proud of you! You didn't let your own shyness prevent you from having what you wanted. You went out and got those digits. I hope you feel pretty darn good for yourself because that was a huge step. GOOD JOB!!!

No, girls don't give out their numbers to random guys. They give them to guys that peak their interests. That's you.

The next step is this: give her a 3 days. Then, call her up and remind her where you met and who you are. Then, say, "I only have a moment and have to get going, but let's get together on Friday [or whenever] and continue our conversation of the other day."

Then, lay out exactly the plan to meet up: when, where, how, etc. Be clear on this yourself by the way. Don't say, "Where do you want to go?" It's YOUR date and YOUR job to make this work. Also, don't make it some huge deal. You don't have to spend a bunch of bread - keep it simple. This is just the interview process to get to know who she is. Also, don't make it a movie or concert date. You need "face time" with her.

GREAT JOB, DANY!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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