Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/26/2008

Question
hey dennis, i remember in one of our email conversations when you told me that women are mostly drawn to guys with great attitudes, that its about having a good attitude... what kind of attitude and characteristics is it that women are drawn to? thanks a bunch

Answer
Hello Jared!

Unfortunately, I get so many letters every day that unless you copy the previous email, I just can't remember what we talked about before.

However, it doesn't matter! Let's get to your question:

You've no doubt read or heard about the "Alpha Male" and probably think this is the right attitude. Unfortunately, very few people - even so called "experts" - know what an Alpha Male is! Thus, I'm going to steer you away from that concept entirely as it's likely not correct. If you want to know more about what a real Alpha is - and have some incredible keys with women - check out my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World II" where I go into it in great depth.

Instead, let's talk about the attitudes themselves.

First and foremost, women are attracted to those things that make us "masculine"; specifically, our "masculine energy". Any time you express those things - without being superficial or over-the-top, you're on something of the right path.

Women are biologically programmed to seek out guys that will express that power simply because they can see it in their own offspring. Consider this: women don't want to bear children that are going to get their lunch money stolen on the playground or that are going to get beaten up by the school bully. Likewise, they don't want thier kids to BECOME the school bully either. Thus, something inbetween is what they look for.

Obviously, that's a pretty generalized explaination, but it gives you a place to start.

I teach a series of different "attitude tools" and communication systems that express these things, but they are way too complicated to re-write here in email. Again, I refer you to the books if you want to know more about this.

You can also adopt a character or "avatar" of someone you feel posseses the type of attitude you'd like to express. In effect, you "become" this person when you're first meeting women. If you do this enough, you can integrate it into your own personality and have many of the tools you're looking for.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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