Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/20/2008

Question
I've gone out with this girl before.  I made some mistakes and i know that.  I've asked her out before but she brock up with me the next day.  I really like her and i don't know how to tell if she likes me.  I don't really even know how to approach her.  Can you tell how i would know if i was going to far to soon with a relationship.

Answer
Hello Conner!

Wait a minute, let's get something clear here. Asking her out on a date isn't the same thing as having a relationship with someone. She can't "break up" with you simply because you dated once - or even 100 times.

Simply believing this that they are the same too far.

A relationship is built over the rapport and connection you create when you're dating. After you've been dating for awhile, you begin to expect to be together each weekend, during holidays and birthdays and at other times. This is when you have a relationship.

If you asked her out and she said "no", it might be because she has other plans, not because she's dumping you. If she went out with you at least once, she's interested, but that doesn't necessarily mean she's ready for a relationship with you. It doesn't means she's NOT either.

Confusing? Yes, sometimes. The best way to approach this is to go out and have fun. Talk and get to know each other. Eventually, you'll start being seen by your friends as a couple and you'll have the beginnings of a relationship.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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