Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/19/2008

Question
I'm am a 16 year old that is pretty overweight, at 6"2", 290 pounds and 32% body fat. I'm do play 3 sports, but can't really lose weight,and or talk to girls. So what can i do?

Answer
Hello Christian!

The way you look on the outside is a reflection of what you think about on the inside. You're insecure around girls and you let that affect your own health.

Let's talk about some reality here, shall we?

If you stopped eating altogether, you'd lose weight right? It wouldn't be healthy weight loss, but it *IS* possible to lose the weight. In fact, you don't want to lose it simply because you find solitude and comfort in eating.

Now, imagine something different. Let's say that you really thought of yourself as a stud. You excelled at your sports (and others too) and really cared about how you look and what you put in your body.

If those things were true, do you really think you'd have trouble talking to girls? Of course not!

These things are directly related which is why you combined them together when you wrote to me.

Here's what you can do: make a decision. It's as simple as that. Make a decision that you're going to deal with the weight problem and that you're going to start caring for the guy that's inside. Food is fuel, not security. Find your support for your goal through your folks, family and friends and BECOME the Christian that you know you can be. Stop putting it off. You'll never have a better time in your life to become what you want than now.

Make that simple decision, take specific action and watch as your problems with girls go away too. It's all directly related.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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