Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/12/2008

Question
Hey Doc what up...Me and my friends hang out a lot at the mall and in public places and we always see gorgeous women. I've never dated anyone before, and i just wanted to know how, and what should i say to a women that i've never met. Are there any tips or techniques that you have that might help me. Anyways thank you for your time and i hope you reply back soon

Answer
Hello Eric!

What up? Everything above eye-level.

Tips and techniques? Yep - a ton of them!

Here's your problem: I can't give you a few tips and techniques to solve your problem here. Approaching women isn't about lines or tricks. It's about having a solid, consistent plan. It's about a basic skill set and I can't give you all of that in one or even one hundred of these messages!

The good news is that there are very specific, clear resources on my website (http://beingaman.com) that will help you.

If you're looking for the quick fix, there's not much I can say. Let me get you started with this however:

To approach, NEVER, EVER use a "line". Not only has every girl already heard them all, she'll have a much better come-back to shoot you down. Frankly, they are weak and expose you as not having any real game.

It's much better to use a "context approach". You can get some information on what this is all about from my FAQ's under "Self Help" on my website.

The approach is based on just a few simple steps:

1) Develop a context approach for the specific girl you want to meet (each one is unique at least to a degree).

2) Approach her, break the ice and get her talking in order to discover her communication systems.

3) Use communication skills to build rapport and connection leading to attraction.

4) Close for digits or an impromptu date.

5) Set up the next date at a later time.

Each of these steps have specific things you need to know in order to be successful. The good news is that they're not difficult! Check my website for a bunch of material on each one.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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