Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 3/3/2008

Question
hey doc i need help,
i am a freshman in high school and there is this girl that i like. as of a couple
weeks ago she liked another guy but he didn't like her and i'm not sure what
she thinks of me. i go to a small school and we know eachother pretty well
and i am in several classes with her and i need advice on how to get in a
relationship with her.
thanks, paul  

Answer
Hello Paul!

Here's the mistake you're making: thinking that she has to be attracted to you first. That's not the way it works Paul and if you're waiting around for that, it's not likely to happen. On the other hand, you can CREATE that attraction.

Stop worrying about her liking someone else. Since you already have classes with her, you have an instant excuse to approach her. Tell her you'd like to study with her or talk about a class assignment or why the teacher wears a hairpiece or anything like that and you have your context for an approach. Next, get her phone number and call her for a date (don't try to hold the date on the phone however.)

Then, when you go out, make it simple - just face time, don't spend a fortune or try to make it a huge deal. Instead, turn on the charm, tease her, and be sure to kiss her. She'll start forgetting about anyone else pretty quickly.

Be bold. The great energies will come to your aid!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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