Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/8/2008

Question
Hi Dennis,

When I was young, my parents always told me to study hard and thats what the girls like.  Do you think its true? Right now, i am working on my Master degree.  So far, I think its partially true because I have been attracted to some girls that is highly motivated in school as well as work.  However, I have no clue about how to attract girls that is hot and playful (slutty girls).  I am wondering why and whats the main difference between those two type of girls? What should I do that ace my game in both type of girls? Will I be able to use my qualification to attact them? Please advice. Thanks.

Answer
Hello Ken!

LOL...your parents sure knew how to motivate you! Too bad they didn't know what girls like. Your parents told you this because they were wanted you to take your education seriuosly. It obviously worked! You took your school work so seriously that you neglected your study of the opposite sex!

Think of this more like a puzzle with many pieces than a map with only one page. Your education doesn't hurt you, but it's not the most important thing to most girls - especially party girls.

Obviously, every woman is different so it's impossible to give you a difinitive list, but here's a number of things you want to be in order to be attractive to women:

* Decisive and clear about where you're going in all areas of your life
* Able to communicate with women in their own language
* Able to communicate in general
* Willing to be the leader in your relationship and to take it where YOU want to go
* Have something going on - work, hobbies, friends, etc.
* Have some personal style
* Be fun! Be happy, open and engaging with others
* General confidence about yourself and where you're going
* Be able to movitate and lead others

Obviously, this isn't an exhaustive list, but it gives you a good idea of what's important to women. This is what my students call the "BAM Philosophy" and it covers not only women and dating, but every area of your life.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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