Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/20/2008

Question
QUESTION: there is this girl that i like that only see her a few times a day at school. the only time i see her is when we pass eachother in the hallway once a day. once in awhile i might see her somewhere else but not often. well i started noticing her from everytime i passed by she would look at me. the more i saw her the more i liked her. the problem is how am i supposed to even meet her or talk to her. this is in between classes and theres no time to stop and talk and i couldnt do that anyone cuz i dont even know her. what i have been doing is looking at her when we pass and she has smiled but im not sure if it was at me or it was from something her friend said to her. im just looking for some advice on what to do?

ANSWER: Hello John!

Actually, this approach is very, very simple. The very next time you see her in the hallway walking past you, move over into her way. Make eye contact and hold it and stand right in front of her. If she moves to get past you just move into her way again. Do this with a blank expression until she knows you're playing with her. Then, just smile at the joke.

Next, put out your hand and say, "Hi. My name's John, what's yours?" She'll shake your hand and give you her name. Then say, "I just wanted to meet you. We can't talk right now because we have to get to class, but I'd like to get to know you better. Write down your number of this paper [hand it to her with a pen] and I'll call you sometime."

It's really that easy! Don't be afraid, just do it. It's actually pretty cute and she'll appreciate your direct, bold style. Trust me.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"

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QUESTION: that sounds like a good idea, but the problem is im not a very confident person so i dont think i would be able to do that. even that sounds like i wont have enough time to do it. i only see her for those few seconds or that whole day. i was able to find her on facebook the other day if that means anything.

Answer
Hello again John!

Ok, so exactly what are you looking for? Are you hoping that she'll just become magically attracted to you through osmosis or something?

John, here's the reality: it's your job to approach women you're interested in. That's just the way the game works. If you're unable to do that, you're going to be alone the rest of your life unless you're very, very lucky - and nobody is that lucky.

You HAVE to learn how to approach the girls you want to get to know. This seems like a big step and you're probably spending all your time thinking about how she'll reject you, but in reality, girls don't reject guys. Just the fact that you make some move is intriguing to them! They wonder, "Hmm...maybe I better get to know this guy!"

I strongly discourage you from contacting her on FaceBook. If you want to get rejected, this is the way to do it! The internet is such a thick filter that she will have no qualms whatsoever about ignoring you or just brushing you off. Then, what are you going to do?

If you're really too scared to try this with her, try it first with some girls you already know a little. Just see how they react. She's not going to be any different. Even though you only have a few seconds, that actually works to your advantage and gives you an excuse to get her number and get back to her later on.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"