Expert: Mark Rosmar - 4/6/2008

Question
There's this girl who's my editor in the school newspaper crew, an open mic hostess who pulled me off stage because of my harsh actions (but I apologized to her last year), the student body president, active in gay-rights movement (but she's straight), but really really conservative or "reserved".

Nevertheless, I've developed feelings for this girl since I've known her since last school year and for some reason, I'm really attracted to her. And just recently, I asked her to go eat breakfast today, and we did. I thought it was a good chance for us to get to know each other. The thing is she's too reserved. She's not the typical college student who would go with just any other guy. She has his standards and I respect that but I feel like there's a wall between us that I'd really like to break.

How shall I capture her heart?

Answer
Jake,

It depend on how much time you have.

A woman doesn't want to come over as easy, so she'll put up a facade.

How long it takes to break through that facade depends on your technique and time frame.

Put neediness on the backburner and press on.

Hope that Helps,
Mark Rosmar