Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 5/27/2008

Question
hey how you doin? me, not so good. this girl i like is leaving friday and i want to take her on a romantic date when before she leaves and hopefully a FIRST KISS. i was thinking around the alke then sit down and talk while watching the sun set but i dont know and i'm hopeing fpr a 1st kiss. what should i do???

Answer
Hello Jordan!

Hanging out at the lake; and maybe having a picnic can be a very romantic date; and frankly, is a great idea!

With regards to "hoping" for a first kiss - don't hope - DO!

If I understand your question, it's about how to "convert" to that first kiss. Actually, it's not hard at all.

You want to set this up from the very first moment you see her - don't wait until that "big moment" as it's far too much pressure. Start by kissing her when you first see her!

Think about this for a minute: how would you greet her - by shaking her hand? Of course not! That's too business-like, right? You'd probably hug her (at least), so that's a good time to kiss her on the lips too. Get it out of the way right from the start. Further, it seems natural and almost charming!

Next, as the date is progressing and you're both talking and having fun, there will come a time when the conversation trails off slightly. That's the time for the next kiss too! See how much easier it is now that you've already gotten the first one out of the way?

One way to do this is to lay down on your back looking up at the stars. Talk about them and eventually just say to her, "Come here" and motion for her to lie against you. Now, she's in your arms and you're all warm and cozy. Easy so far, right?

Next, it's just an easy step to roll her over and kiss her! It can be a single, smooth move that will seem perfectly natural and (trust me) even fun!

Jordan, don't make all of this a big deal. We're not talking about violent crime here, we're just talking about a kiss. The best ones (like crimes) are always stolen - not negotiated. Thus, don't ask her first - just do!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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