Expert: Mark Rosmar - 5/11/2008

Question
Have had my freind living with me for a while now, seems she wants to be freinds as she has been addicted to something not sayin what. The problem is this her freinds ask about us and she claims we are just freinds, her own family is wondering with all the things I have done for her like take and go away with her and she will not sleep in the same bed and at times she will pick the room with the bed and I am stuck on the couch and she does not pay for anything at all. This seems kinda weird to me, there has been times when she has been drunk and has wanted to have sex. Other times she seems to be giving mixd feelings when she wants something or needs something. I am wondering what I should do to find out what she really wants or is just a player for herself. I do care a great deal about her and when she has done something wrong she does like to be punished.

Answer
Hello Bill T,

and thanks for your question.

This woman is just using you for a free ride.

I am not saying that one should never have a sharing, caring benevolent spirit; but all the things which you have (seemingly) done for her and she didn't do any "work" she is under the obvious delusion that she never has to.

Plus you never did "attract" her in the first place.

She seems to me to be just a friend and I'd advise you to start looking elsewhere if you desire more.

Hope This Helps,

Mark Rosmar