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my situation is a bit complex, I am with a girl, I'll call her Caty (and we have been together over 2y now) and we leave a relation base on compromise. We don't have a lot of common ground. Always bickering on who will decide what we do... She present me to some people she knew, and there this one girl she presented me (Let's call her Mary) ... I know most people say that friend of girlfriend is a no no situation...
But I can't stop myself thinking about her, I saw her two or three time, never alone and the more I saw her the more I was thinking that I would like to know her better and find out if we could be together...
Now the problem is this. Another friend of my girlfriends saw me looking at Mary and she warn my girlfriend to be cautious. I've overheard them talk when I wasn't supposed to be there.
Since then (2 months and counting) Caty never talked about Mary, and we never saw her again. I'm not able to forget her, I don't know what to do. Should I try to talk with Mary, should I let her be one of my dream and add her to the regret I have in my life.
thank you for your help
R.
Answer Hello Remy!
It doesn't sound like you're married to Caty or that you're very committed to her. In fact, I think that Mary might be someone you could date and I don't see any particular stigma in doing so if you're really feeling over Caty.
You're going to have to counter the initial objection with Mary of Caty being her friend, but once you do, you might have a shot.
Just be aware that this is likely going to get back to Caty and things will be over with her. Or will they????
If this happens, you can always say to Caty that you don't get the sense that she's working very hard to keep you interested by not finding common ground for you both. If things don't work out with Mary, it actually may actually strengthen things with Caty, but it's a crap-shoot.
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