Expert: Mark Rosmar - 6/9/2008

Question
I think I’ve found the one but its all gone wrong!
I met this girl over the internet and after chatting on the internet for a day we then talked by phone for over an hour everynight for two weeks. The first time we met it was electric and got on really well to such a point that we kissed a few times. After this we spoke but not as much and soon I was making all the running and she would never phone or call me but would always respond when I texted or call her! I spoke to her on MSN and was getting one word answers so I just said I realise now that she didn’t like me but wish her all the best. However I can’t get her out of my head and I don’t know whether its because I’m a student, have no money the distance (she lives a few hours away) that is the reason, or religon (even though she said she isn’t religious. I really really want things to work but don’t know what to do! Can anyone help!?
Bill  

Answer
Hello Kris,

thanks for your letter.

You probably swamped her. You see one of the letdown early in young relationships is that one of the parties involved in such a union can acrowd the other so much that is actually is a turn off.

This seemed sadly to have happened here.

On the other hand if there is not enough conversation/communication, then the other person (the girl) can lose interest.

Kris for this relationship it may be too late but for future ones you will need to strike a balance.

Hope This Helps,

Mark Rosmar