Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/5/2008

Question
Sure, I suppose that's a possibility too and if that is your experience it bears out your interpretation. Keep in mind however that far fewer guys are as motivated by the mores of the church today than they were 50 to 100 years ago.

Women tend to be competitive when they are thrown into a micro-culture like work. It's not that men aren't either, but it's a different type of competitiveness.

The reality is that there are actually fewer single men than there are single women. Even worse, there are fewer single men of a high-power status, and more women of a high-power status today than ever before.

Women have a biological need to "date up"; that is, to be with men of even greater power (however the individual defines that power as it's different for each person) than they, themselves have. That means that as women grow in power (individually and as a group) that the pool of available, datable men shrinks very quickly. This leads to even greater competition among women.

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Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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so since there's not many available men around...

what do you suggest for the career oriented women around nowadays?

Answer
Oh, you again??

First of all, it depends on what you're looking for, what you consider "powerful" and what your own power-base is.

In fact, there are great men all over the place, but as a good example, I just answered a letter from a reader that considers herself very beautiful, but keeps getting involved with guys that are total jackasses and that mistreat her.

Her problem is that she hasn't made herself worthy of the market she wants to attract. She's relied on her looks, (or perception thereof since she didn't send me a photograph to say) to get her though - and they have - right through to unhappiness.

You see, it's impossible to make a generic statement about how and where to find these guys. It all depends on PERSONAL interpretations of these things and how they work in individual situations.

Being "career oriented" doesn't make a woman "powerful". Being powerful makes her powerful.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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