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Question Hi im a 20 yr old shy guy. Theres a girl the same age as me that i like. We new each others personality a bit coz we both had to attend youth worker meetings, i made her laugh a couple times unitentionally. She is a well spoken girl and im like the more common street person that talks like mixed between asian, black and white slang accent, but im not chav.
I fancied her for about a year and half at my church. but i didnt do anything about it. She new i liked her because i could just sense it.. u know what i mean?
After bout the first 3/4 year that i fancied her i noticed that she did to me what i was doing to her.(Looking then looking away when our eyes met and being near each other as close as comfortable(if that makes any sense lol) like sitting or standing when ever possible but not talking only the occassional hello.(We never have had a convrsation) Damn it i never made a move! i know i should of, it was a great chance. It could have been my first in person GF ever! But possibly being my 1st gf ever was too scary for me to approach. This carried on for about another half year until 1 sunday it was a wedding, she was with a guy that i kind of know. He is a bothin looking, serioulsy ugly guy that thinks he knos everything and i hate him coz our personality clashes. I heard they had only just gotten togehter a week ago, when at the wedding and that they went out with each other about 2 year ago. i was devastated like someone ripped my heart out! I was like WTF she must of become tired of waiting so long for me to buck up the courage to make a move.
I know its long but please read on.. thx :)
Now i havnt seen her in ages up close because i backed off. so i feel like i dont fancy her but when i get a glimpse of her that doesnt happen often because i guess she is at her bf church most of the time. I get that butterfly feeling and excitement like im really really pleased and excited to see her.
Now moving on there is an avent im going on in the middle of nowhere. where 100s of teenagers and young adults meet up and camp in a massive... MASSIVE! camp with fun things to do like bars (selling softdrink), cinema, live music and sports for a week! in big tents.
I will be a youth team leader with 3 other leaders. One of them is the girl i like.. Yessssssssss!!!!. And As far as i know her BF wont be there! woohoo!!
Do you think i should go for it or not bother?? what could i do to get stuck in there?? Like... approaching, making jokes and interesting conversation... but not cheesey pick up lines that i know wont work coz i see it happen too much. Im very observant by the way just incase that could be of use in any way??
Sorry that its long winded! I felt the need to let it all out :) Thx for reading.
Guys like you should get paid for this!
Answer Hell Anthony,
Thanks for your note and kind words.
I think you've covered alot of ground with this girl during the past few years. But you can't just have a pseudo-relationship with her; you as a man have to initiate the next step in order to advance to the next level.
As you seem to have the luxury, you should formulate a plan.I think it could go like using this upcoming event to find out more about her with small talk and light convo and without crowding her. Then after the event arrange some private time with her.
