Expert: Mark Rosmar - 7/27/2008

Question
I am an 19 years old man and I have a lot of lovers in Colombia, South America but am from the US. And most of the times I get an fear of that one of my babes are cheating on me. And I get very irate when my girls don't answer my e-mails or my phone calls. What should I do?

Answer
Hello Stephen,

Thanks for your note.

First of all there is never any guaranteee that a woman won't cheat on a man.

The closest thing to a guarantee is to impregnate the woman as much as possible then be a good father.

But this of course couldn't work for you as you seem to be scattering your efforts too much to ever even build the levels of trust needed, even although you live in another country.

What I would say in closing is this; on the one hand you need to be so in control that a woman will actually tell you if she has an interest or a lover while on the other hand she knows the consequences and fears of losing you if she ever does.

Works for me.

Hope This Helps,

Mark Rosmar