Expert: Mark Rosmar - 8/19/2008

Question
QUESTION: Hi Mark. So i met this girl named Julia when i went on vacation and we stayed in the same house together and hung out together for a week, and i fell for her like alot. and i thought she had those feelings back for me so when i tell her how i feel about her she responds with "I like you alot curt... but not like that. i thought of us just as good friends" now i know i should just for get about her but i just cant i like her way to much. i wish i could get a chance with her. Your advice will be greatly appreciated!

ANSWER: Hello Curt,

Thanks for your letter and question.

You made the fatal error when you told the girl how you felt about her.
As a man the important thing isn't how you feel about girls - but the feelings which you create in them.

Bear this in mind for future interactions with this girl and with women in the future.

Hope This Helps.

Mark Rosmar

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QUESTION: Thanks for the reply. Now id like to know how can i create the right feelings for her? what exactly is the right thing for me to do in this situation now?

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Curt, thanks for your letter and question.

As I said in my last reply, you made the fatal error when you told the girl how you felt about her. I am not there and your situation is totally unique.

But, as a male out there in the game the important thing isn't how you feel about girls - but the feelings which you create in them and make them feel for you.

Bear this in mind for future interactions with this girl by back- tracking a little, try seeing her less often while letting your meetings actually be fun so she'll have something to look forward to, replacing the void, as it were.

Hope This Helps.

Mark Rosmar