Expert: Mark Rosmar - 8/5/2008

Question
I'm 18 male teen and i am have sooo low self esteem that it's killing my chances of meeting girls. I'm decent looking & tall but always put myself down. For example, yesterday i went to a barbecue party & i saw some pretty girls. But for all the time there, i kept thinkin that they wouldn't be interested or i didn't know what to say.I think i saw them looking at me a few times but i thought nothing of it. And when i left, i felt very sad / dissapointed with myself cos i kept talking my self out of it.
I'm afraid i will be like this for 4ever.
What advice would you give to someone like me ?

Answer
Hello Dani,

Thanks for your letter.

Instead of bothering about getting the girls interested in you; you need to become interested in them

You see, humans in general in the social setting don't really care about the other person, but if you are interested in the other person ironically they think of you as an interesting person.

Hoipe This Helps.

Mark Rosmar