Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/10/2008

Question
I am male teen 18 and i started college the other day. When i was walking into the entrance, this girl gave an innocent smile but i thought nothing of it. As i'm walking down the entrance road, these 2 girls in front of me turn the heads at me and smile. I looked behind to see if anyone's behind me but there wasn't. And today i noticed 2-3 girls on the bench lookin at me from behind as i'm passing by. Why is this ? i don't think i'm good looking (but my acne went & i put on some muscle) is it because i'm probaly ugly ?

Answer
Hello Dany!

Look - I don't know if you're ugly or not. No, it's extremely unlikely that's the reason these girls were looking at you, but here's a far, far more important point (that you're likely to ignore): your looks don't matter anyway.

You (as a guy) put a lot of weight on women's looks. Women don't work, act or think like guys. They have a completely different set of guidelines that they use to determine interest in someone than we do. Looks ranks somewhere down around 7th or 8th most important thing. Many other factors are far more important.

If you put this much emphasis or concern on how good looking you are, you're going to waste tons of opportunity with these college girls.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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