Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/12/2008

Question
QUESTION: "Hi,
I would like to say i am a shy man, i had meet a girl in my work we had an eye contact for long time, we start to say hi, after some weeks i decide to talk with her, and i did it, we had a nice talk, we are from different culture background, in fact i still don't know if she interested on me or not, the problem i see her in office every day, i try to invite her for coffee out second time we talk but the answer was "Lets see", what does it mean ??, during the next week almost it was just hi's between us, then i start to feel she is avoiding me, one time she say Hi, how are you, but i couldn't answer i was so ill, so i send her sms saying sorry i am bit ill and i couldn't answer, i don't get answer for the sms, next week was bit crazy, i start to feel more she ignoring me, so i decide to talk with her to see what up? we talk together, and she said she was soo busy in the week, etc.., in next day she was more friendly i pass by her and she said lets have coffee together, we had a nice talk, next 4 day, same problem again, just hi's nothing more, in last day of the week i went to her to ask if she free in weekend, just start a talk and she was too busy, so i couldn't ask her,

Now really i feel more lost after all this, i still don't know if she is interested, i don't understand her behalf, in fact i like her and i don't know what to do more to go far in the relation, the main problem we are working in same office, but different field nothing common, and i feel too bad everytime i see her and i still don't know what is going on, should i stop and forget about her, or should i keep trying ??"

and was asked on 08/30/2008

ANSWER: Hello Khalid!

Attention Whore Alert!!!!

This girl (unfortunately) isn't interested in you. She's interested in the attention you give her. That's all. That's why she's being so evasive.

The first think you need to understand is how women speak. Women never come right out and say "no". But they will say "maybe" and "let's see" which means "no". A "yes" is a yes by the way.

This woman knows you're interested in her and just wants to keep you on the line so that she feels attractive to someone. The problem is she's doesn't return the feelings.

Ignore her and move on.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: Hi,

Is there any chance to make here interested ...

Answer
Hello again Khalid!

Yes there is, but it's far, far more intricate than I can possibly go into via these messages. If you really want to know how to do this, go read my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World II" as I have an entire chapter dedicated specifically to this.

Frankly, it's far easier (and much more likely of success) to find someone else.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"