Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/18/2008

Question
I'm a senior in high school, I just got out of a kinda long relationship,  b/c I
no longer had feelings for my ex and I'm really into this one girl.  She's a
junior but she is perfect, I can't find a flaw and I adore everything about her.  
We talk alot but it seems she's not into me or she's too shy to express her
feelings, I can't tell.  Can you help me?  How do I break that "friends" barrier
and see how she really feels?  I just don't want to do something wrong and
mess it all up.

Thanks

Answer
Hello Brad!

You're wrong, Brad. She's NOT perfect. Don't idealize her and give her all this power over you that she hasn't earned. She's already caused you to break up with your girlfriend and that's far too much power when you don't really even know this girl yet! You're going to find out she's not the girl you think she is - trust me.

If you've really become her friend, you may be totally sunk. Women don't date their friends any more than they date their brothers. I sincerely hope this isn't the case for you, but I fear the worst.

You've got to stop treating her like the friend and start treating her like the girlfriend. Stop "being there for her". That's not what guys women want to date do, that what buddies do.

Next, ask her out on a real date already! DO NOT ask her to "hang out" - again, as friends. You've got to put some moves on her like kissing her.

Yes, you risk losing the friendship, but as I've already told you, you don't want that anyway.

I suggest you go to my website (http://beingaman.tv) and click on Videos and then Self Help and watch the video on friends. Next, go to my other site (http://beingaman.com) and click on Self help and read my FAQ's about friends - including the articles.

You need to get this "education" you've received about being friends with girls fixed right away before you do any more damage here!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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