Expert: Alex Strandberg - 1/5/2009

Question
There is this girl I really really like and I don't know if she really likes me how
can I find out and what should I do depending on what outcome also how
can I get her to like me

Answer
Hey Adam,

"how can I find out if she likes me" it should be obvious whether or not she likes you. If she is very friendly, touches you a lot (not in a friend way) and you can feel that she likes you.

Whatever you do don't ask her if she likes you. This will kill any chance of her being attracted to you or liking you.

On the other hand don't tell her that you like her either. "I like you" can be translated to "I know you don't like me but I'm trying to force you to become attracted to me by telling you"

The thing is you can't get her to like you. She either likes you or she doesn't like you. You don't have a say in the matter of how another person feels about you.

Telling her will get this response "um...I like you to buuuuuuuttttt as a friend".

The problem is that you are TRYING to get her to like you. That's very needy and wanting her to like you will cause her to not like her. Neediness is universally unattractive.

To truly be successful with women you need a take em or leave attitude. You need to learn to drop attachment to any single woman otherwise you will have a scarcity of women in your life.