Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 1/30/2009

Question
QUESTION: i have this frind ive been frinds with over 3 years and ive grown realy close to her i started likeing her and i just dont know ifi should ask her out i realy like her and i would hate to loose her friendship if i wold her how i felt so please tell me should i ask her and take the risk?

ANSWER: Hello Daniel!

If you don't want to risk losing the friendship then do nothing. You'll definitely lose it if you tell her that you're interested or (worse!) how you feel.

What do you hope to gain by telling her your feelings? That she's going to do all your work for you and just say, "Oh Daniel! I feel the same way!!" so that then you wouldn't have to take any risks whatsoever?

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: ur right so what should i do at least ask her out and see what happens from there?

Answer
Hello again Daniel!

Yes, you should just invite her out, but that's also the time to kiss her. It's that kiss that turns things from friendship into more.

Be bold my friend. The mighty forces will come to your aid.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"