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Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/4/2009
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I've always wondered why desirable girls seem to pass me by for the pretty boy types.
Here's an outline, I'm 5 foot 6, 200 lbs, with a coal miner's/ powerlifter's build. Now I'm not the washboard abs and oiled tanned kind of guy by any stretch of the imagination, but it seems that guys that look wimpy end up with better luck than me. Am I wrong in believing that women like guys that appear to be able to protect and provide for them? Now as far as interaction, I've been told when I look at someone, I have almost a glare, I'm guessing this is a negative with women, although it's necessary for my occupation. Is there any body language signals I could send that would help me bring in a more attractive woman versus a buffet special?
Answer
Hello Jake!
Glaring at women is necessary for your occupation??? Hmmm...I think I want YOUR job!
Let's deal with some basics first, then I'll get to your question (promise!)
First of all, your looks have very little to do with your success with women. The reality is that women put looks down around 7 or 8 in the order of things they find most attractive in men. We guys on the other hand put looks up around 1 or 2 and many guys mistake the fact that since it's important to us, it must be to women as well. Not true.
Women don't go for the "wimpy look" any more than they go for your look. It's something else they are looking for - in fact, many things. regarding that list of "wants" with women, do you know what the #1 "want" is? Answer: "power".
Now before your mind goes a wonderin' trying to decide what "power" means, let me tell you: it's different for every girl! Some girls view big guys as "powerful". Others find that guys with deep, powerful voices are "powerful". Others view status or money or career or many other things as "powerful". It simply depends on the girl.
Interestingly, #2 and #3 on that list? "Confidence" and "a sense of humor".
Sometimes, glaring at someone tells them the same thing it means in the animal kingdom, "Don't come any closer - I don't trust you and I'm going to bite your nutsack off!" That's not exactly "confident", I'm sure you'll agree. It also doesn't show much of a sense of humor either.
So, what body language components DO show these features?
1) Posture - standing up straight, head up, chin out, but comfortable and relaxed.
2) Using an "open posture" - that is, not crossing your arms or blocking yourself with any part of your body or other objects.
3) Making pleasant, inviting eye contact - not "glaring".
4) A confident, pleasant smile.
There are many other things as well, and you might want to check out my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II" for more of them, but this list will get you started. You also need to know that many body language signals say, "Don't come closer" - something you don't want.
This is a good time to go get Mr. Mirror and take a look at your overall impression. If it doesn't say "power", "confidence" and "sense of humor" to you, it likely won't to anyone else either. If you're still not sure, check in with your buddies and have them help you with this too.
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