Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/12/2009

Question
QUESTION: Hey Doc, it's Brandan here again.  Through the past questions I had, I understand what you mean, but my problem now is I want to know if it would be too late for me to try and talk to her again.  If I suddenly started to talk to her more, would it scare her or make her feel weird about me?  During the past few days as I was saying before, we basically didn't talk at all.  I went and checked out your website, it helped me how to be a better communicator with girls, but all I want to know now is if it would be too late for me to try and talk to her and I need your advice.

ANSWER: Hello Brandan!

No, it's not going to scare her or make her feel weird - unless you do something else to cause that.

One thing you need to understand is that when you told her you liked her, you put all the pressure on her to make the next move - and that's not her job, it's yours. She didn't do anything (even if she was interested) because she knows this.

Talking to a girl isn't a violent crime Brandan. Everyone (even pretty girls) want to talk and get to know someone of quality. All you're doing is offering her that chance! Why should that seem "weird".

If you act like the fun, interesting guy, she'll be happy to talk to you - just remember her favorite subject!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: Hey Doc, okay I understand that she won't see me as a weird guy if I talk to her.  But this whole week, we did not even say hi to each other even if we passed each other.  If I started conversations again next week, would she become mad at me or go like "WTF, why are you talking to me now?" ?  I did the "ignore" thing to her a little bit, would that result her to view me as a loser?  Recently, she posted "story between you and me? it's the end" on her msn display sentence.  Though I'm not sure if it's directed to me, all I want to make sure for now is, as I asked before, would she go like "WTF" to me?  Also, I'm sorry for bothering you too much with my situation.

Answer
Hello yet AGAIN Brandan!

I UNDERSTAND ALREADY! No amount of asking me the same question over and over again is going to change my mind. If you don't believe me, then feel free to go ask someone else or just react to your own fears.

She's not going to get mad at you unless you've already done so much damage here that you'd have to fix that first. I'm beginning to wonder if you've done to her what you're doing now to me - you continue to push and push trying to get something YOU want to hear rather than listening to the reality.

Yeah, ok, if you've done that to her, she's not going to be happy to hear more of it.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"