Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/26/2009

Question
Dear Dennis,
I live in Los Angeles. I love this girl more than anybody I've ever loved before. The only problem is she's 4 years older than me. I just don't think she'll accept me as her boyfriend because I'm 4 years younger than her. Also we haven't really met each other face to face yet and she hardly knows I exist.

I really need your help and advice. Can you please, please tell me how to firstly get to know her, and secondly make her my girlfriend.

I would really appreciate it if you replied and helped me out. Thank you in advance.

Answer
Hello George!

As though you don't have it tough enough, let me guess - this is a long-distance relationship, right? Otherwise, how could you not have met her yet. Further, what makes you think that there's any interest on her part? The age difference is far less a problem than the distance is.

I'll say this however: they key to building attraction likes in learning how to first build rapport and connection. I teach 4 different communication models that do this. You can use them independently or in any combination and build all of that very quickly. The problem here however is that the distance and your own insecurities will prevent you from being able to do so.

You need to give me a better idea of what you're dealing with here.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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