Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/26/2009

Question
hi i'm pete im 18 5 ft 11 inches with thick orban hair olive skin and generally a funny guy but when i try to get girlfriends recently they just look at me in disgust i have now lost all confidence and cant get a woman to save my life please tell me the best aproach. thankyou.

Answer
Hello Pete!

You seem to think that there's a single approach that works for every woman. There isn't. Learning what works with women is a study in and of itself, not a single process.

Your looks have absolutely nothing to do with your success. You need to get that through your head right here, right now. If you're trying to meet women, you need a system that begins from the approach, carries you through building rapport and connection and finally leads to a valid close where you get what you want - digits, dates, sex, etc.

I strongly encourage you to move away from looking for this "best approach" because there isn't one. Instead, learn to handle this game like any other. Start by learning the rules and learning what works and what doesn't. You can do this by trial and error - and waste lots of time doing this - or you can go about it by getting educated first. You won't be surprised that I recommend the latter.

Go to my websites (http://BeingAMan.com and http://BeingAMan.tv) and look around. You're going to find a ton of material there to help you. Get involved with our active discussion group (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/beingaman) and draw off the knowledge of others that have gone through what you're going through right now. In short, learn what works, and then get started putting it into practice.

As my dad used to say, "Practice doesn't make perfect - PERFECT practice makes perfect". In other words, you need to know how to play this game - and play it right - for the right habits to set in.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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