Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/30/2009

Question
I just saw this girl I knew in higj school. I haven't seen her in like at least 8 years. Now I saw her and she looked at me and was like "Juan?" And I took a lil longer to respond and after analyzing her for a bit I replied "rebecca?" And she started laughing and was like "omg!" And gave me a hug. Anyways, I got her number telling her we should catch up on times. She was drunk during this time and I was tired. Anyways I got a call from her a few minutes ago and cos she didn't who's number it was cos I'd called her up so she can have my number. I'm gonna call her tomorrow and ask her if she wants to do something on friday. I'm gonna attempt to be close to her and drop some hints that I like her. I'm gonna just tell her I had a crush in high school etcm and just allow the night to lead. Do u have any tips for me?

Answer
Hello Juan!

Good job on closing for her number!

DO NOT tell her these things! What are you hoping, that she's going to just say, "Oh Juan! I've always wanted you big guy and now I have you!"

Come on here. Of course she's not going to do that. Keep it casual and see where things go.

Juan, it's YOUR job to move all of this forward - not hers - and she damn well knows it. If you say these things to to her, it's just going to get awkward and she's going to associate that awkwardness directly with you.

Instead, go out with her and be charming. Touch her and sit close to her. You also need to kiss her and act like it's perfectly normal.

There seems to be some interest on her part or she wouldn't have given you her number, called you, etc., and by the way: she knows damn well that was your number on her phone. She was probably expecting you to call her a few days ago and was wondering why you didn't. She finally got tired of waiting and called you instead. You should have pulled the trigger then, but at least you're on it now.

Get going already!

Best regards...

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