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Hi, I was wondering, is it okay to openly ask a woman if
she has someone already, or it is better to find some other
discrete way to ask it, and if so, how? If this can help
understand my precise situation, I know this woman for 7
years now and well, we are not "friends" but we sorta trust
eachother (as much as it is possible...) and we have a good
"relationship". I just want to know if it would be possible
to get closer to her. Also, I ask you this because, well
i'm not shy and i could just go ahead and ask her, but if
she has someone or she is not interested, well i dont want
to screw our actual situation up...
Thank you!
Hello John!
No, it's not ok to openly ask her, unless you do it in a very direct, powerful way built upon an already powerful connection with her. Even then I wouldn't suggest it.
Let's be honest here for a minute, shall we? This "actual situation" is a friendship, right? If so, then, what do you really have anyway? Do you really just want to be this girl's friend - watching her go out with other guys that aren't afraid to pull the trigger while you're sitting around waiting for her to do all your work for you?
Likewise, boyfriends are NEVER an issue! Trust me! In fact, EVERY girl has a "boyfriend" - or so they claim. No girl wants you to know that she's really single because she believe that just tells you that she's not worthy of one.
The reality is that every girl is willing to "date up" and if she sees you as this "up", she'll very likely leave the other boyfriend for you anyway! Trust me on this - I've done this so many times, I can't count them any more.
Decide what YOU want and go for it. Don't sit around worrying whether it's the right time of things are perfect or if she's single, etc. Just move forward.
Best regards...
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