Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 5/17/2009

Question
QUESTION: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want to ruin anything. The thing is, she's liked me before during my sophmore year, and then some kid ruined everything for me. I was incredibley hearbroken. THen i tried to get over her but all of a sudden, i've started liking her again. This sucks so much cause i really like this girl and i actually want a relationship to to last and with her. She's the most incredible girl i've ever met. Everything about her makes me happy and i can't stop but think what the hell i wrong with me!!!!! I really need help. Should i move on or stay with it and see where it goes!?!?!?!?!?

ANSWER: Hello Ralph!

If you've degraded your association with this girl to a friendship, you may not have anything to work with. Unfortunately, women will let you do this to yourself, but when you do, that's where it ends for them.

There's a ton of reasons (and science) behind this, but trust me, it's the reality. You obviously aren't able to move this forward and not being able to is driving you nuts. The only way to get healed and to move on is to completely purge this girl from your life.

If you honestly don't want to "ruin anything", you're just going to have to suck it up and agree to be miserable but to let things be as they are. Personally, I think that's a dumb choice.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: okay. I completeley understand what your saying and thank you. But she acts differently towards me then she would with another guy. Like if we're in a group of people, she will treat me with more "respect" so to say. But when we're alone, she's all flirty and more outgoing if you get what i mean. Like i want to let her go, but with her doing that, kinda makes me believe that she has feelings still towards me in a way.

ANSWER: Hello again Ralph!

You're reading too much into this. If you doubt what I'm say then, the very next time you see her, try to kiss her on the lips. If she turns away or prevents it in any way, you'll have your answer. Likewise, if she "falls into" the kiss, you'll also have your answer.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"

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QUESTION: wow. I never thought of it like that. haha. I will. She has a recital today and after, i'm gonna try to kiss her. Thank you so much!!!!!!!

Answer
Hey Ralph!

Go for it!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"