Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 5/19/2009

Question
Hey,

Well, there was this girl that I really liked in my school, I'm a senior and she's a sophmore, and I didn't know her at all, so being the idiot that I am, I asked her best friend to introduce us(even though I didn't really know her friend either) so everything turned out a bit awkward with this girl. I was actually gonna ask her to prom, but recenty I decided not to. The thing is that I don't really like her anymore, rather I started to fall for her friend, the one that introduced us.

The thing is though, I really wanna go to prom with this second girl that I recently started liking, and there's only a week and a half left, and I don't know her that well. But if I think about it, if I did ask her, it would seem like she's a second choice to me cause she knows that I liked her best friend. I don't know what to do, but I really like this girl now.even if I don't ask her to prom, I would still want to go out with her. What should I do?

Answer
Hello Ronny!

I think you need to ask her, but before you do, consider this:

What's really important about prom isn't the prom itself - this is just a chance to blow a bunch of money for one evening and impress no one in doing so. What's important about prom are the after-prom parties!

You could actually avoid the prom itself and go to the parties and have far more luck now just with this girl, but every other girl there.

With that said, forget this problem about her being a second choice. You have the right to change your mind whenever you want. If your second choice becomes your first, the girl should be happy that she's spending her time with a great guy that is finding his way - just like she is.

Go ask her already!

Best regards...

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