Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/2/2009

Question
QUESTION: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this
girl I like she 17 same grade and really goergeous and all the guys at school
wants her , I have already started to talk to her she seems interested but I'm
not sure I have a good status at school I get Invited to the best parties  so
does she but she usually hits the bar but I need help on what to say to her I
can't read her mind I dont know what words to use to seduce her and how to
do it she likes romance and she hard to get I just gotta find a way to break
the ice and how do I not reveal myslef to her I wanna misterious and should
improve my communication I'm a shy guy and I let my looks talk for me when
I'm trying to get girls and them I emphasized when she interested but when it
comes to get a I like and as a strong personality I'm not good at it. Thanks
alot hope you respond to me soon thanks.


ANSWER: Hello John!

I agree that you need help on your communication skills!

Here's exactly the magic you're looking for: it comes in the form of a realization. Stick with me here.

We all have different things we like, different hobbies and different interests, but the one thing we all share is the same: we are primarily interested in ourselves. That's true of you and me and your friends and your parents and even this girl.

Knowing and excepting that fact gives you huge leg up. You have to really get it ingrained in your mind however.

Knowing that this girl is primarily interested in herself helps you because it tells you EXACTLY what you need to talk to her about - herself!

Most guys (especially at your age) would go over and try to impress her with things THEY are doing. Do you see how this won't work? Instead, you're going to go to my website (http://BeingAMan.com) and click on "self help". From there, click on my FAQ's and read the articles on communication skills you find there. They are going to explain all of this in greater detail.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"

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QUESTION: hey sorry I Did what you ask me to do. But I went on your site and I can't
read anything because you need an account to login thanks have a nice day

ANSWER: Hello again John!

Actually, you didn't do what I told you because the articles linked to the FAQ's are all free. Please try again and make sure you're finding them via the FAQ.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"

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QUESTION: Hey again so I have a problem me and this girl have talk for couples times on
MSN and at a school but like one I'll talk her at school the next day I won't
and every time we see eachother at school, or in the hall way its kinds
awkward we both dont say hi and now at school she just see me and doesnt
say anything usually we will both say hi and talk but now its not the case
how do I fixed that we haven't talk for 1 week if I'm not mistaken I just
wanna tell her straight up that I like her and we should hang out but I can't
do it cuz we haven't talk for a while and theres this awkwardness between us  
thanks alot hope you respond to me I appreciate have an nice day sir.

Answer
Hey John!

Don't tell her that you like her. The reason you want to do that is that you hope she'll go, "Oh John!" and tell you the same thing. She won't and you'll be out.

Instead, straight-up tell her you want to get to know her better outside of school. Tell her that you want to meet this next weekend and say, "Which is better, Saturday or Sunday afternoon?" Then, get together and go to the park or do something fun.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"