Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/19/2009

Question
Hi Mr. Neder I just need a little help. I don't really have a problem getting girls. And first off let me point out that I am still in highschool, not an adult who lives for himself. I dont know if you can help me but I figured I could at least try. Anyway I used to live in Las Vegas and got into some trouble, okay a lot of trouble. And then I moved to Kansas where I lived before and became very open with my situation and now live for God and am a very good hearted person. Now I can get the hot preppy girls, whatever. I and I dont mean this too harsh, but I hate them. Theyre stupid, unoriginal, and put themselves in situations I can never understand. Anyway, I'm babbling, theres this girl Paige, pretty much never had a boyfriend or a legitimate relationship. She's innocent, goes to church. Not a goody two shoes necessarily but she's never done an awful deed in her life. For some reason I am attracted to her and have talked to her for awhie and admitted to liking her and she says she likes me, I think. I dont know really she's not sure whether she wants to date me. And just little things. LIke she never texts/calls me, I'm the one who does. And dont get me wrong when we converse its definitely a good conversation. But just little things I suppose. Like I said I could go after other girls but theres something about her..

Anyway I hope I gave you enough information to help, if you can. Any information would be GREATLY appreciated. Thank you and God Bless.

Answer
Hello Jordan!

Women are notoriously good at keeping their real agendas hidden from you. They do this for a number of reasons: thinking that they can control and manipulate a relationship this way, trying to not look desperate in your eyes, etc. The bottom line is that you often won't know a woman's interest in you, but frankly, it doesn't matter anyway, you can create that interest.

Part of this game is to NOT call or text you or start any conversation with you whatsoever. This is designed to get you on the chase. The problem is that if you do this, women begin to wonder why you have to work so hard and start losing interest in you!

Yes, I know, it's a ridiculous, stupid game, but frankly, many, many women just don't have any better tools to work with so they do these dumb, rude things instead!

Instead of trying to hold your dates on the phone, you need to get this into real life right away! Only use the phone (and NEVER texting!) to SET dates. Then, put the technology aside and build something with her.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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