Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 7/14/2009

Question
Mr. Neder,
I am a 24 year old college guy in Alabama. I would consider myself to be in the top 3% of good looking guys around here. I am 6'3" and very athletically built at 220 lbs. However, I have an extremely hard time talking to women. I think im just boaring. I have a very mild temperament, that most women probably consider boaring. Ive been single so long that I'm afraid i come off desperate for affection. Ive glanced through a few articles on attraction but most seem to cater to guys who want to  be pickup artists. My biggest problem in my opinion is that i just cant hold a conversation for over a few minutes (might have something to do with being extremely ADD). Im also broke so that doesnt help either. Please give me some advise.

Answer
Hello Cliff!

Here's the problem: you think that holding a conversation is about impressing a woman. It absolutely is not.

This is going to come as absolutely no shock to you but women LOVE to talk. If that's the case, why in the hell are you worried about doing much of any of it? Cliff, here's the reality: if you can GET a woman to talk, she's going to give you tons of important information that you can use to build rapport and connection.

In my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II" I talk extensively about communication systems. These are important for exactly the reasons you've written to me. It's not about what you say at all, it's about HOW YOU SAY IT.

Everyone (and I do mean EVERYONE) has at least one thing in common: we are all interested primarily in ourselves. Knowing that little key is an important answer to your problem. If any girl you want to get to know better is primarily interested in herself (and trust me, she is) why would you EVER talk about anything else?

If you want to learn more about this, I highly recommend you read my books, but at the very least, go read my FAQ's at: http://BeingAMan.com which will give you the gist of this all-important key to solving your problem permanently.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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